How to deal with a difficult person

Having dealt with the most difficult people ever in my life i came to the conclusion that sometimes we call a person "difficult" when we fail to understand them or when we fail to deal with them. But as I met more people i started to realize that some people have certain combinations of personality traits that makes it impossible to deal with them even if you are a communication skills expert. The only way to deal with those people is to understand these difficulties they have in their personalities then to confront them with it. Whether the difficult person thinks that he is always right or whether he believes he knows anything, trying to convince him with your opinion at the situational level will always fail, because unless you face them with their own difficult personality traits they will keep thinking that its the situation that has to be blamed and not them. Mr I know everything: Thinking that he knows everything doesn’t make him a difficult person, but when the person knows nothing yet has this belief then he is a typical difficult person. Mr i am always right: if someone is stubborn in addition to being a narcissist, he will then think that he is always right and he will never change his mind especially if someone tried to pressure him. Mr and Mrs victim: lots of people think that they are victims but some of them refuse to stop playing the victim’s role even when solutions are offered to them . Those are what we call drama queens, they feel bad when anything happens then keep playing the victim’s role even if everybody around them kept trying to help them out. the rest... There are lots of other types of difficult people but the principle that makes them difficult remains the same, they have two personality traits that together block the road to any further negotiation with them. Those people will always keep thinking that they are doing nothing wrong and that others carry the blame until someone who is brave confronts them with the truth.there is only one way to deal with such people, confronting them and telling them about their complexes, if they didn’t respond then you should never deal with them. Those people will still act the same way until someone draws their attention to what they are doing or until they realize that everybody is being repelled away from them because of their behavior.The important advice i have for you is not to confront them while arguing with them,simply because this will result into a fight and their defensive complexes will become activated. If you want to convince them that what they are doing is wrong then you have to pick a time where they are feeling happy and relaxed so that they listen to you to the end. Don't lose your temper or shout not to give them any reason to resist or to activate their defenses. Once you tell them so, they will start to have doubts and then as they face life situations they will reconsider that you have told them. Whenever they will come across a new situation they will remember your words until one day they will discover that they are doing something.it don't need to make someone believe what you are saying immediately in order to convince him, you just need to make him have some doubts and then the other life situations he will face will do the rest of the job. Confront those people at a time where they can listen to you, because its the only way to deal with them. As we were having our duty at a psychiatric ward i realize this stuffs..and learned how do people suffer psychosis, the questions why.what,how answered..of coarse psychiatric patients are differ from normal ones, but those patients was once a normal then..

2006

year 2006 this is our very first pic..an experimentation type of relationship at first....

what i had received!

our new home mates..irish the cat and fritz our baby..

vidit at honey's most especial place

an all day together day out

reminiscin'

building dreams and future together

thanking each other for being the one

a lot of things to be thankfull.. that's all..hihihi

visita iglesia @ august?!...

three weeks ago, me and my peeps went to baclaran church..just for fun..maaga kc kame ndissmiss ng professor nmin..the main plan was just going around the church viscinity but due to Badz consistency in attending mass, aun napilitan kame ni lea na magsimba na rin.. The sun shines so hot that day and we (leah and me) felt sleepy, tired and wasted..but actuallly we did nothing in the school and even before that day..cguro cnsaniban lang kme..hehehe..As what to expect, sleepy n nga kami inside that turns to decide not to attend the mass..we arrive at 1:30 pm nmn kc and mass starts at 3:00 pm p daw..then the finale nagyaya kami umuwi ni bunso but bhadz left and still wanted to have a mass(consistent talaga!)..a week after i went together with bhadz at baclaran church, para matuloy n ung pagccmba nga..nakakatuwa naman kc for this time never na ko nakafeel ng antok or even pagkabagot!.On my entire life nung time q lang un d aq nakafeel ng khit anong distrbance sa pakikinig q sa mass..for the record un!...I felt great and happy after the mass..cguro nabawasan n un evils sa katawan at isip ko..lol..and it all starts there..3 consequtive wednesday nko ngccmba dun at same on every friday naman sa quiapo church..wala lang natutuwa lang aq..ewan q bt the feeling is different..i'm not used to it kasi d nmn tlaga q mahilig magcmba, honestly even rosary d aq marunong kaya pag nagnnovena todo tingala ang bida dun sa tv wherein nkapowerpoint ang novena itself..i actually buy my novena booklet n nga.. sometimes sa bahay or at free time bnabasa q xa..d q alam but its for real na natutuwa aq..nagkakaroon n q ng interes ngayon.. nakakatuwa sa tagal q ng ngccmba esp sa quiapo dahil deboto nga dun ang ama q, ay ngaoiyn lang aq nakapagcommunion sa misong altar...For the record nnmn!...hmmm mabango pala dun at di q alam..kc most of the time majority ng taong ngccmba dun wasted at pawisan kea iba't iba n naamoy m dun..pero pagdating q sa harap in front of the altar ang bango sobra!..iba sa perfume parang amoy flowers..wala share lang nakakatuwa kc...last friday after our duty we attend mass at quiapo church afterwards dahil sa maliwanag pa we(badz,lea,aq) decided to went to intramuros...bumaba kmi in front of manila cathedral..aun pumasok,first time q mapasok un..lagi kc nakasara pag weekdays..grabe ang ganda pala tlaga nung historical church n un!..superb!...after nmin mgpray and take a look at the whole church pinapalabas n kami ng mga caretaker dun buti at napicturan p namen..pero promise ang ganda sa loob...while walking papuntang intramuros we saw a cross again for sure cmbahan un, kea aun natour ulit kame..and it is St.Augustine Church pala..i never know it exists.. nakaaabot pa kmi sa homily kea tinapos n nmen!..bongga ang mass halos dumugo ilong q sa choir!..latin at spanish ang mga kanta..akala q nga pati "Our Father" ei..naku po kung nagkataon d aq makakasabay!..solemn un place..although konti ung ngccmba, scattered nmn kea mukhang madami.. tsaka mukhang rich and riches mga nagccmba dun wlang palaboy..lol kme lang..na inspire tuloy kameng mg church hopping..were planning to go to the church at Mandaluyong..ung nsa mismong tapat ng city hall nila.kahit kc madalas kme nagdduty dun d pa kami nakakapaxok dun..take note not just visiting churches huh but also to atten the whole mass each and every church..next in line proposal sa my edsa shrine,divine mercy,manaoag and a lot more n suggested ng mga kakilala..nakakatuwa pala..and were appreciating it so much!..naalala q pala when i started this thing 5 people n ang nagtanong sken, anu daw wish q?!..naguluhan nmn aq.. kc nagccmba q dun pero wla aqng wish! bkit kelangan bang meron?..eh ung dndasal q nmn eh everyday un din un..consistent lang aq..wala n aqng wish..kc mabait c lord sken bkit magwi2sh p q?..gusto q nlng macontento sa bnbgay nia sken..ung everyday prayer q un n din un ipinagccmba q..kea mga dear frend eto sgot sa tanong poh..unusual b tlga para sken un gngwa q nowadays?..hehehe..

day before Anniv..

elow huny?! grabe 2m we are going to celebrate our 2nd year anniv..i'm wondering kung san kya tau mapapadpad..hehe..and i'm thinking ryt now what would be the best gift for you..kc nga you are demanding hours later na you are expecting something from me na sabi mo deserving ka kc naging good k nmn this year...hehehe.. maybe tama k nga and actually sobra-sobra pa sa pagiging good ung mga nagawa and ginagawa mo para sakin especially para satin..kala mo lng i'm taking it all for granted pero sobrang salamat po tlga..san pb ako makakakita ng honey na katulad mo?.... ndi lng tlga ako showy and vocal sa feelings ko pero sana naiintindihan mo ung mga gusto ko iparating sau.. i'm wishing and praying sana this another year na darating satin is mas lalo tayo maging stronger..sana wag ka magbago at magsawa... and sana mas lalo pa tayo maging mature and responsible ..and lastly sana we'll grow old together...mwuaaaahh... i luv u soooooo much honey... thanks ulit!!!

thanking Almigthy for the good friend...

often times she felt taken for granted, often times she felt alone, often times she thought nobody cares... but for real it wasn't true.. people she's been with were quite different personalities, she migth not feels the thougthfullness of people surrounds her but indeed we are,, u never know how much we care for you.. u are the toughest woman i've ever known aside from myself, honestly u thought me to be and thought me more.. a lot of things, how to face life full of burdens alone.. how to trust myself and how to think of others though you know nobody cares.. you are one of a kind.. i am indeed thankful to Almighty for letting me know you..for having you part of my life..you will and always will be.. i love you so much frend i know u didn't know but as we've been together you knew me for not being sweet to anybody.. so u shud've used to it..hehehehe...happy birthday.. glad to be your friend for the rest of lives..despite of indifferences and sort of tampuhan though miles away in our hearts we'll remain sisters in crime!..got to remember that gurl!..

at si huny emo pala!..lol..

never imagined that felix arabejo jr is an emo kind of person..hehehehe..and i love you so for being such honey..mwuah..

it all starts here..

everytime we went to a gig, honey and i remembers everything from the past..the good and bad memories we treasures and will treasure throughout the years as we were together.. good and bad mem'ries brougth by the liqour that always we keep on talking about..bringing back the past solved arguments just to laugh at it.... how we were starts, developed and continue loves each other till the present and looking forward to the future..accepting the person, vices, friends, indifferences and everything about each other...how "torpe" my huny was and he says how clamsy, hot and young woman full of guts i was..(its the power of alcohol!..duh!..lol)..we keep on having an argue who made the first move?!..of coarse nobody from the two of us admits..i never did anything that would make me look cheap especially if its outsde the viscinity of our place( of coarse this is my page i am on the rigth and bias track(i don't give care):D..made a post on his own..hehehehe)..also how he says "i thought you were a chinita but you are not..just drunk last nyt??"..a big laugh from my big mouth answers him.which is until now i was fond to reminiscin' of..chinita??my eyes were not that bulgy but not closer to chinita!hahaha..i can admit closer to bulgy!wuahaha..that's why honey fond of capturing pics when we were on a nyt out drinking with the rest of the guys..how we both thank tequila specifically the "el jombre" with lemon for giving us both our direction to real life..real love.. by the way those time happens after a certain guy dumped me and i ask for a break up to the another guy i have during that time..i wasn't depressed neither hurt.. i just felt i'm a loser coz i didn't have anybody to accompany me..i admit i am flirty that moment.. that's why i become a tequila and mc fanatic..but just a flirt not a bitch...while on the otherhand huny was fond of playing girls around who shows interests on him..never thought could settle for being a playful guy...he's a bitch then..hahaha..i love you honey...it wasn't that bad but it wasn't that good..but still i want to thank everyone, evrybody and anything that leads me to you..no matter who made the first move, we know within we were happy and thankful for that moment..

honey this is for you, i love you more...

You give me hope, The strength, the will to keep on; No one else can make me feel this way And only you Can bring out all the best I can do; I believe you turn the tide And make me feel real good inside. You pushed me up When I'm about to give up; You're on my side when no one seems to listen And if you go, You know the tears can't help but show You'll break this heart and tear it apart; Then suddenly the madness starts It's your smile, Your face, your lips that I miss, Those sweet little eyes that stare at me And make me say, I'm with you through all the way. 'Cause it's you Who fills the emptiness in me; It changes ev'rything, you see, When I know I've got you with me You pushed me up When I'm about to give up; You're on my side when no one seems to listen And if you go, You know the tears can't help but show You'll break this heart and tear it apart; Then suddenly the madness starts It's your smile, Your face, your lips that I miss, Those sweet little eyes that stare at me And make me say, I'm with you through all the way. 'Cause it's you Who fills the emptiness in me; It changes ev'rything, you see, When I know I've got you with me. It's your smile, Your face, your lips that I miss, Those sweet little eyes that stare at me And make me say, I'm with you through all the way. 'Cause it's you Who fills the emptiness in me; It changes ev'rything, you see, When I know I've got you with me.

honey buo n yan..kc its for you tlaga.. :p I loveyousomuch honeykoh..

a success to life starts from pain..

whoa!..haixx nmn the title ayt?...it is simply about me on my new vice....i am developing a new vices..whew..such really a hard one!.,.this time it has a good benefit esp to my health..often times pertaining to vices where health harmfuls but now more opposite on it..i am now having my session with honey.. as we had our semi-complete expensive(ehem!honey bougth it all..cash basis!..hehehe yabang nuh!)gym equiptments after the recovery we had planned of doing these every morning..as also part of our bonding moments..actually we had planned about it since the time honey suddenly notice my sexiness had some fats..there it all starts..due to some serious consequences it had to be delayed..of coarse..but now we were up to it..we were really decided...urgh!..although its painfull!..really!..imagine i was just doing a simple session but my body really aches, esp the tummy part..it is the only part of my body i had to work out thats why the program really focused on it...but i do wanted to have my shape back again that's why i'm willing..it was hard for me coz i'm not used to it coz i was born sexy..hahahaha..for real.. heres our gym equiptment and my handsome, loving instructor..the picture was not yet complete with the others..it is the partial pics of what we had..^_^

Our angel

a scrap talent..trying my talent to excel..hehehe

women crisis..

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a very special love with honey...

yesterday honey and i had a date...we were so happy not only together but also with my mom..honey treat mom and i..we first went to church together honey wearing very nice and awesome shirtand also me wearing the very first time with him a dress..mom says we look different,so different or lets say (maxado lang nagandahan c inay at ngwapuhan sa terno nmen ni honey.. lol)..from our place..as people weren't able to see as couple always like that..not even once just that day... besides mom bought it to me..after mass we went to one of the two malls located nearby.. we ate lunch then mom said she have to wait for Brad's call that why she leave us early..after mom left honey and i decided to watched this movie..it was really nice..i told honey that seems i am being a fan of the lead actor of these movie cause i also watched his recently movie with another young lady and also love it..promise..i wanted to buy an original dvd copy of the said movie..we feels like it is the new day for us..we feel blessed.. starting another new life..and a new things to worry also starts that day..but i know its just the consequences..everything has its consequences..no matter what..either good or bad.. i believe it has...

prolonged the agony?...

Often times our professor says "why it had to prolonged the agony of something if you yourself know the outcome"..she says it when she was pursuing her students for something..dah..a professor need to pursue her students?!..such an attitude..in some institutions, if a professor decides students can say nothing but to follow then, unless a certain student wants a failing grade or a dropping form sent home.. same person told me so..as i open up reasons that bother me and and also reasons why i haven't shown for a week..she told me why to prolonged my agony wherein i can do an action as of now..while i can prevent and at the same time achieve what i wanted to have..why can it be now?..why can it be this time?... one to her lots of question...question that made me feel i'm on a hot seat not in a counseling one..i want to feel regrets of letting her know, but somehow she had helped in some ways..but not a totally help..she just adds my confusions...(sigh)..i'm totally depressed and really confused..but i know it didn't shows..my worries only affects not anybody but only me..though that's what i wanted to happen..affects no one when it comes to my worries..waaaah such a big big big probz...

sense of responsibility

matapos ang lahat ng pangyayari sa nakaraang buong linggo,now i've realized that starting a new life..again and again..i keep doing such same mistakes into my life though nobody reacting or condemning me for that mistakes..i know someone sees me ..and i'm guilty..i really am..but as mom and i talked, i learned another lesson in my life..she's now giving me my responsibility for my own..it is rare and very different feeling wherein i had to decide on my own without informing her..i am free and i can have mistakes for as i was the only gonna be affected for my faults and failures.... rather than now giving me the free will with her awareness..mas masarap pa rin pala tlaga gumawa ng hindi tama at walang nakakaalan(sa sarili mong plagay lang) kesa sa maging legal ang lahat at lagi k ng mag iingat dahil my masasaktan na sa bawat pagkakamali m bukod sa sarili mo..nakakatuwa oo dahil my makakaramay ka..pero iba pa rin ang feeling..ayoko my nasasaktang ibang tao lalo na kung mahal q at dahilan ay pagkakamali q..maluwang sa loob na mabigat pa rin..confusing?ayt?..its just that i can't really express or explain what i'm feelin' ryt now..how confused am i and at the same time how thankfull..me and my brothers were really blessed!..for having the coolest mom n the universe..she's very different and very rare to have.. i have some conflicts with mom from the past,,a very serious conflict that affects me as i grew up that doesn't fades away but i think i can forget..slowly..for the sake of all..me and her and person involves..though they didn't knew that i know a lot!everything!..haixx...enough of it nasasad lang c aku...kwento q sana what had happened. aun nga i was confined without anybody in the family knows..kalokohan q kaya i had ro suffer alone..thank you hon for always being there and staying at my life.. look how far we made it..nakakaya n ntin kahit tau lang..i'm so thankful were that tough!..but know what?..dami qng what ifs..what if it failed?,what if it may lead to death..what if we can't make even one...what if i'm useless..i'm afraid..not for myself but for you..ayoko madissappoint ka..ayoko masaktan kita..but as u were saying be positive nga lang db..malapit nko maniwala sa power of love mu..hihihi..basta whatever happens its a promise still..i love u so much honey..with all my heart...mwuah..mwuah..nami2ss tuloy kita..hmpf!..