Chapter 7 Reigns of Law

 Key Ideas 

• God’s world runs on laws.
  Just like there are laws in nature (gravity, seasons, growth), there are also laws in our bodies, minds, and hearts.

• Children must learn respect for these laws.
  We don’t escape consequences — if we break health laws (bad sleep, poor habits), the body suffers. If we break moral laws, our hearts suffer.

• Habits are part of law.
  Good habits grow strong when practiced; bad habits also grow strong if allowed.

• Freedom comes with responsibility.
  True freedom isn’t doing “whatever we like” — it’s living wisely within God’s laws, which protect us.

My Takeaway

Life works best when we respect God’s laws in nature, body, and character. Teaching children about cause and effect helps them grow wise and responsible.

"The world is ordered by God’s laws. My children must learn that actions have consequences, both in health and in character. By guiding them toward good habits and respect for these laws, I help them grow into free and wise persons."

Chapter 6 :Conditions of Healthy Brain Activity

Key Ideas in Simple Words 

• The brain needs balance.
  Just like the body needs food and rest, the brain needs proper use and care.

• Too much pressure harms learning.
  Forcing children with long, hard lessons makes their brains tired and dull.

• Short, focused lessons are best.
  A little at a time, but full of meaning, keeps the mind alive and interested.

• Fresh ideas are like food.
  The brain grows when it receives living ideas (stories, nature, truth, beauty).

• Rest and variety matter.
  Play, movement, fresh air, and sleep refresh the brain so it can learn well.

My Takeaway

Children’s brains work best with short lessons, rich ideas, fresh air, and plenty of rest. Too much pressure or boring work makes them tired, but balanced learning keeps their minds sharp and joyful.

"Just as our bodies need healthy food and rest, our children’s brains need nourishing ideas, short and meaningful lessons, and time to play and rest. We avoid pushing too hard so that learning stays alive and joyful."

Volume 1 - Chapter 4 Despising the Children and Chapter 5 Hindering the Children

In what ways do we belittle our children? In what ways do we injure their love for learning?

• When we talk down to them as if they can’t understand.
• When we give them “babyish” or shallow books instead of rich, living ones.
• When we ignore their thoughts or don’t listen seriously to their questions.
• When we assume they can’t handle truth, beauty, or big ideas.

So guilty about some of these.  I have been battling myself not to do this for te longest and still not fully successful. 


Chapter 4 – Despising the Children - Respect children’s minds; don’t give them watered-down learning.

• Despising children = underestimating them.

  • Happens when adults think children can’t understand much.

  • We give them “dumbed down” ideas, empty facts, or boring lessons.

• Children deserve real, rich ideas.

  • Don’t feed them twaddle (shallow, meaningless stuff).

  • Give them living books, stories, nature, art, truth.

• Respect their minds.

  • A child’s mind is just as alive and capable as an adult’s — just smaller and still growing.

My Takeaway: 

Never underestimate children. Feed them rich and noble ideas, not watered-down nonsense.

Chapter 5 – Hindering the Children - Don’t get in their way; let them grow, think, and discover freely.

• We hinder children when we get in the way of their growth.

  • Over-teaching or doing everything for them.

  • Not letting them think, imagine, or discover on their own.

• Don’t rush or overload.

  • Forcing too much, too fast, can crush their curiosity.

  • Give time and space to wonder and process.

• Encourage independence.

• Guide gently, but let them make connections themselves.

• Allow mistakes, questions, and exploration.

My Takeaway: 

Don’t block your child’s natural growth by over-controlling. 

Respect their pace and let them explore, discover, and think for themselves.

Our children’s minds are capable of great things. We must not treat them as if they are small and unable, giving them shallow lessons. Instead, we feed them truth, beauty, and real knowledge. And we must not hold them back by doing too much for them — we guide, but also let them wonder, think, and grow at their own pace.

Chapter 2 The Child's Estate and Chapter 3 Offending the Children

• Children are born persons. - Children are born full persons; respect and nourish every part of who they are.

  • They are not blank slates or empty vessels.

  • They already have a mind, conscience, and spirit.

  • We must respect their individuality.

• Children deserve dignity.

  • Don’t talk down to them.

  • Don’t overload them with meaningless tasks.

  • Offer them truth, beauty, and noble ideas.

• Education is about feeding the whole person.

• Body → through health, play, fresh air.

• Mind → through living ideas, books, stories.

• Spirit → through faith, truth, beauty, moral guidance.

 We should treat our child as a whole, complete person right from the start. Respect them, guide them, and give them what is nourishing and real.

The Good and Evil Nature of a Child - Children have both good and bad in them; guide them wisely so the good grows stronger.

• Children have good AND bad tendencies.

  • They are not perfect little angels, nor are they “bad.”

  • They naturally lean toward both kindness and selfishness.

• Role of parents/educators:

  • Guide them gently to strengthen the good.

  • Train them in habits that keep the bad in check.

• Willpower matters.

  • Children need to learn self-control, not just obedience.

  • Habits + gentle correction = building strong character.

• Avoid harshness OR indulgence.

  • Too strict = breaks the spirit.

  • Too soft = lets bad habits grow.

  • Balance with firmness and love.

They need guidance because they are capable of both good and bad. Parents responsibility is to help the good grow and to lovingly correct the bad, not crushing their spirit, but shaping their will.

"Our children are not empty jars for us to fill. They are already whole people with minds, hearts, and souls. It’s our job to respect them, give them the best food for their minds and hearts, and guide them with love. We remember they can choose good or bad , so we gently train habits and strengthen their will, helping them grow in character without crushing their spirit."

Preliminary Consideration and Chapter 1 Method of Education

Preliminary Considerations

• Education is an atmosphere, a discipline, a life.

  • Atmosphere → Children learn through the environment and relationships around them.

  • Discipline → Building good habits is foundational.

  • Life → Nourishing the mind with living ideas, not just facts.

• Parents are the child’s first and most important teachers.

  • Home is not secondary to school; it is the primary place of formation.

  • Parents must be intentional in shaping habits and ideas.

• The goal of education is character and whole-person growth.

• Not only filling the mind with knowledge, but shaping will, habits, and affections.

• Learning is not for exams, but for living well.

Chapter 1 – A Method of Education

• Education is a discipline of habits.

  • Habits (of attention, truthfulness, kindness, order, etc.) are the rails on which a child’s life runs.

  • Forming good habits early saves effort later.

• Children are born persons.

  • They are not empty vessels, but individuals with their own minds and dignity.

  • Respect their thoughts, do not underestimate their ability to understand big ideas.

• Mind feeds on ideas, not just information.

  • Use living books and real experiences instead of dry facts.

  • Narration helps children take ideas and make them their own.

• Education shapes the will.

  • Teach children to choose wisely, not just to obey.

  • The will can be strengthened by small daily choices, guiding them toward self-control.

My Takeaway 

• Your home is the most powerful classroom.

• I will Focus on habits + living ideas + respect for your child as a person.

• Knowledge should be life-giving, not rote or mechanical.

• Parenting and teaching is not about control, but guiding children to grow in independence, character, and love for God and others.

Children are a public trust .

The Beginning of US of A Adventures

This is it! I am going to the US. It's my first international flight and feel so grateful it is in United States. I am feeling nervous, excited and the same time sad. Sad for my other teammate since there is only 2 who passed the visa application among five. Also sad since this will be my first time being away with my kids. I am excited cause it's an adventure and nervous a little .

My title is as if I am traveling for pleasure. LOL. It is all about work and wouldn't be alone if it's pleasure tho, I sure to tag along my crew (Team Arabejo) if that is!

Our connecting flight is in Japan. Good thing it's not my first time riding in a plane. :D

After all the preparation from home and procedures, immigration, baggage and everything including the flight for 4 hours, I feel like I want a breather. Good thing in Japan's airport it is possible! I need not to go anywhere. No worries of going to be late on on-boarding to the next flight.

This is so far the longest flight. I take advantage of everything available in the craft. Rest room, coffee, soda, wine beer, food that I ate; tissues, water . Duh. It's kinda boring. We experience multiple turbulence but not my concern at all. I want to go to a different place aside from my seat. Funny on this flight I was asked multiple times for my passport whenever I requested for a liquor.

After almost 12 hours on air. Touchdown Texas. Thanks G for the safe flight. But wait there's more another almost 3 hours flight going to Virginia. Since it's already midnight we stayed at Best Western Hotel.

Time to lay down the literally tired body.

Almost there. Last time to chill and setting the expectation that the following days will be a grinding day everyday!

The Adventure Starts Here

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> There is a humor in the office that there are number of employees will be send to USA for a training. As usual it started as a hearsay. I don't mind anything about it. I am happy and grateful for the work that I have plus the fact that hubs and me are in the same company. I don't want to be a hypocrite to say that I don't want the experience but then again it's pure "hearsay" no formal communication.
> Then they started asking for those who have valid passport. Hubs and I are looking for possibilities of travelling abroad that's why I have one.
> Here comes the day. There are 4 reps chosen to be part of the training and need to be approved for a US Visa to go the US for training.
> Now, It's for real.. I am so much lucky to be chosen and so so lucky to have an approves Visa.
> Photo was taken the same day after consul's interview. Cannot brag the news yet since everything is in the planning stage.
> I can't thank enough hubs for driving me and being sleepless with me.
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The Additional to the Family

When we decided to buy a property, we are so happy that we are going to have our first ever investment. It may not be that big but still it's an investment and a fulfillment for me. Last year, I received this best offer, buying a house and lot directly from the owner to pay only for 3 years. What a good deal right? For some instance after paying for almost a year the seller need an immediate money for healthcare expenses. The owners are elderly and no other source of income except from their child. They received a best-est offer to cash in the property they were selling. Though it is a bridge of contract but since I understand their situation hubby and I give in since they were returning all the money that we paid. 
It's frustrating yet I saw a rainbow while holding that sum of money we received back. I suggested , since we also needed, to purchase a car. It may not be an investment but this will make the kids happier and comfortable for our growing family. It may be an expenses in exchange of our supposedly investment but we've got no regrets having Wyx as an additional family member. 

The Villain of the Secret Affair

I am a little (just a little promise🙂) upset as I am writing this post. As when I try my best not to be mean, not to talk about ot yet I heard statements that I am then the villain of their secret affair.
I am really amazed how she can managed it silently. And just because I am loud then I am now the bad one here.
1. I am genuinely true to you initially, what about you?
2. I don't give a damn about your so called BEST FRIEND with BENEFITS affair that was just started 4 months ago 😳 best friends with common interest right?! to FLIRT!
3. Accept it, you're a flirt don't make excuses about it.  Can't contain yourself without hanging out with him.
4. You said you don't care about him let me give one of the most plastic scenario:
    He's ignoring you for a week and you are worried even asked me as to why and sent him a pm then you made a consistent effor! 👏🏻
   What about me? we've been close since then, if you see him as a friend and the same thing  to me why is that, I (we) never felt your consistency. Good job flirt! 😐
5. Everything you told me when we were in the getting to know stage was a BIG LIE 🏆
( I can add screen shots here 🤔)


You will never like it if I boiled up with your paawa and epal drama making me  the reason why you're secret affair is no longer a secret. I haven't done anything yet! Wala pa! I was so nice enough forgiving you about accusing me, cause you don't really matter at all. But don't fill up my tumbler of kindness( tumbler lang un) cause I can directly talk to your spouses don't push me too much Harotcheena!

P.S
sorry for posting this, I just would like to vent out and help myself to cope with this feeling that I would like to reveal everything but still I am worried about their family.  I know Karma is approaching. Juat don't push me too much or I can be your Karma.

   

First Korean Food Experience

I am not a KPop fan or korean drama fan. Since I am carnivourous and not fond of spicy in that case I am not fond of Korean cuisine. But these beautiful people invited me to be a victim. 😭
All I can say is that the company you are with is the most enjoyable thing rather than the food. 🥴🥴

FO

I am now declaring that as of writing this, that I am not going to be the same me to her anymore. She is just an acquaintance. A colleague. I am very particular with my friends. I am honest to them, real, truthful, caring, funny , naughty and I am trusting the person  for me to say that we are friends. I only have few trusted friends and I don't care if its few. I am not that righteous but I don't let my friend to be in a wrong way of life. I can be a guide to be a better person( we will struggle together) help to be better and not to be something unacceptable with my standards and by the society. I share my, friends, cousins experiences not to brag but to let them know how was it, the  impact and outcome. No communication, no petty talks, no honesty, fake and not receptive so it's just an acquaintance.
Will treat the person the same as I treated the others. I will not be sensitive to what 😑going to feel,  I can say what I want to say without hesitation, No barriers, if by chance 😑got offended plain sorry will do.  I won't give a damn care. I don't need her friendship and I think it's mutual anyway. Good bye to you my trusted ( I thought) friend. * just a line in a song not totally related lo*
I came up with the realization after gathering literal words coming from her that it was all planned with her own intentions.  She make friends with me for a purpose, to get near to her subject. She used me to enter our group. It was amazing a not so nice feeling! She did a great job! This how I can see things now.

Exposure

Not that I am going to post anything about something obscene or talent and what not.. It's simply about legs 😂😂.. It's been so long that I am not wearing any kind of clothes that will expose my legs. It started when I get pregnant to my second baby. I got some allergies that leave scars to my skin. Since I am not into cosmetics that will help remove or reduce scars and I am also not fond of vegies, I immediately gave up the fight of a good skin.

I am into shorts and skirts during the time that I only have my first born which is also one root of me and my husband's misunderstanding. Then when the time that I initiate not wearing those, I think my husband was the happiest on my decision. 
Just recently that I realized that my scars were no longer visible, there were some but can't barely notice. I wore a dress to a birthday party. It's been so long and I felt a little ashamed but husband said it's okay. Besides we borrowed my brothers car, maybe one reason my husband agreed on me wearing that. We need not to travel commuting from one ba/puv to another. I felt I was like a teen, the time when we met the first time. It gives me additional feeling of confidence. (regains confidence actually) I think I can buy clothes that I want.. hmmm 🤔

PTP : Coping

This time tagalog muna. Yung PTP sa fb permission to post. Paalam ako sa sarili kong blog. lol. Madalas na kasi kahit aware akong may grammar issues ako english talaga post ko dito. Una praktis, pangalawa para hindi masyado harsh at intense , pangatlo dahil sa blogging ops required. Regardless tumbling grammar mo basta english pumapatok naman at nababayaran. Anyway gusto ko lang mgpost ng tagalog. Ganado.. Na ooverwhelmed kasi ko sa mga bagay. Ang taas na ng upuan ko. 😂😜Yung isang friend ko ngsabi bilib daw sya sa pagiging positibo ko(drugs ba to lol) at matibay sa buhay. Oh well una maganda yung training ground ko ung buhay namen na mapapa #struggleisreal ka talaga at impluwensya ng nanay ko. Yung pagiging optimistic partly nun nahawa na lang ako sa asawa ko. Tapos yung isang chics na malapit sa puso ko #excousin sabi ang mature daw ng way of thinking ko. Na flatter ako oo pero minsan kasi literal na mind over matter. Tapos nitong huli tinanong ako ano daw ba pinagbabasa ko bakit parang ang light light at easy ng buhay ko. Sa totoo lang napakahina ko kaya, iyakin, maramdamin,negatron at madaling sumuko . Walang maniniwala pero totoo yun. Kaya minsan sa blog ko na lang dinadaan. Sulat, buntong hininga at dasal. At higit sa lahat lagi ko iniisip yung meron ako. Kumbaga gratefulness ang pairalin para happy life. Wala lang #mema lang😂😂😂

Disappointed

In my previous company I met good and best friends. Good friends that will guide you, mold you and laugh with you. Everyone is unique and not so righteous but everyone respects one another. It may not be that obvious but its real. There are differences but there's an acceptance. I was in an environment that I can say a best work place culture.

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Then I expects. Moving from one place to another with a big hope that I will have the same community. With an open heart and patience and a big changes within I have expected a lot. And I got disappointed. I am used to different kinds of people but it stricken me that fast without me knowing. I was so disappointed at her. I let myself befriended to her because I thought we have the same visions, because I thought we have common beliefs about family, because I thought she is a better person that will lead me to a right path, because that's HOW she introduce herself. My fault that I hoped too much. Believed too much. I have a note in my station "Expect high on achievements and low on people" which was the very first of all sayings that I've printed yet I never learned my lesson. Almost weeks of stress and a little depression but realized that she never cared at all. Maybe it was just me who cared all this time. Note to self, I am formerly mean and I was taught to be nice, I became nice but was betrayed by my expectation but I won't be back to the old mean me just because of that failure. I can just walk away, avoid or don't give a damn care and I will be okay. Not all heart aches reason is from a lover sometimes it is also from a failure friendship. 

Relaxing Sunday

 

I feel so stress recently. There were a lot of things bugging me. As of the moment I feel so helpless and things is not under my control. Yet I won't give up. I can rest, take a deep breath and I know I can surpass this again as I always did. I have them and the rest that's all that matters. Go kha!

Reunited

I just love being with these most mean girls..
Kudos to Vanessa's hubs for preparing the meal. It's a sneak getaway nearby, very limited but full of fun, from call time to part ways time. No minutes wasted.

My 31st

I am so thankful and blessed for the life that I have. I don't have all the good things in life but having my healthy happy family is enough.

Level up Plans

As I get matured and looking at the bigger picture of my little family, I am aiming more and more for my kids. How I can make their life comfortable and the way of their living without neglecting the  things that they should learn in life as they grows. Plan of their studies and more spacious home. My dream of owning our own home seemingly vanish as I have to be more practical and think of other things which is more important. Mom and my eldest brother offer's our ancestral's house. At the same time mom needs someone to accompany her and we can't also afford to be away from mom. Recently mom's another level up proposal is to renovate for the second time of our home. A proposal of new main doorway  and also offers a new side for windows as it is more conducive and more ventilated side of the house. She also advises to look for ideas of window  tinting for homes online or in the nearby home depot. I am enthusiastic for mom's ideas and offers at the same time I feel like kids need a more spacious rooms to play and study. The property is available all we have to do is to maximize the availability of it and plan carefully.  It was mom's suggestion not to get a ling term house loan. Considering that it will be our achievement as a couple yet that would be a long term sweet burden though. And 30 years is not a short period. That will be half of our lives. I was enticed how developers nearby beautify houses around with an ample square foot property. The place that I have right now is more promising than subdivisions houses. Our place is not a depressed area but a residential area. Making the best out of it, designing at my finest touch to satisfy my craving with developers taste of construction and reading some professional tips online. While planning of how to start the renovation, as early as now we are checking for alternative and best ideas for a good design that we will include in our bucket list for renovation .In time all of the plans that's piling up will be coming into reality the sooner.

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Hone by Time

Life is a full of crap. Life is unfair. Nothing on earth was made to be perfect. Fact that I know almost everyone knows. Coping up, adaptation, being receptive and acceptance is a key to happiness. That 's what I learned so far in my 30 years of existence. Resistance is not an option, most especially quitting. Keep moving on as one of the line from famous song of the band Paramore. Making things out of it. Appreciate and be thankful. Resolving life puzzles and accepting God's plan no matter how difficult to accept. That's how it goes. Somehow with the people I am with, with the challenges that I overcome and going through, the lessons that life taught me. For sometimes I felt like tired and thought of quitting yet now I know it is not the best way. I can rest, breath and prepare myself for everything. Be it a challenge , a blessing or even just a simple day. Give thanks that my life is moving. Though it may not be the phase I wanted to be I have my uppers to hang on stronger than my life's downers.

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Be Courteous Enough

This is not about election topic. There were a lot of bloggers who posted their insights and I don't want to join them anymore because I still value the thought of "taboo ". Sorry but this is just about my thought of disagreeing to a statement pertaining to bloggers.
 I've been blogging for a decade and it doesn't sound good to my ear. I am offended. As a blogger I used to read reviews about anything, you can sense if it will be truthful or just for the sake of a paid post. But if you're not a blogger don't express your opinion as if  it was a fact and to a point of sharing it to others as if it was genuinely FACT. We all have our rights to our opinion but maybe you can think of others may knew a lot better than you do when it comes to a different thing. Again as what the saying goes , if you can't say anything good or just for the sake of humiliating an opinion of the others have the courtesy to keep silent.